With recent school shooting in mind: Is the news ever so devastating that you avoid it, but then feel guilty for avoiding it?

I'm probably going to be downvoted for this but please understand, this isn't coming from a place of malice or lack of empathy. I'm just being honest.

I just don't care anymore. I can't help it. I don't know when this happened or why but I've become totally desensitized to it. Every time something like this happens I think "hm, that's terrible," then go back to whatever I was doing and forget about it. It's not lost on me how awful that is. I hate this about myself. I wish I could fix it but I don't know if it can be fixed.

I hypothesize this is a consequence of being hyperempathetic and hypersensitive. Being constantly bombarded with emotional trauma is bad enough. Being constantly bombarded with emotional trauma that has an INFJ-related damage multiplier, even worse. I think the never-ending cycle violence has shut down my ability to feel emotions properly where such events are concerned. Maybe it was a sort of defense mechanism or maybe I've just become totally inured to it. I don't know. But I can't make myself care anymore. I'm all out. I have none left.

What makes me sad is that situations like this are preventable. We wouldn't even need to take away people's guns (although, sensible gun control wouldn't hurt). The answer is simple and right in front of our faces. Sometimes I feel like I'm living in a mad world that this shit isn't totally obvious to everyone else. We need to strike at the causes underlying gun violence.

We have a population that is impoverished, disenfranchised, listless, poorly educated, suffering from a number of social epidemics and ailments such as chronic anxiety, sleep disorders, stress, depression, and obesity, all of which are intimately interconnected problems that people can't seek help for because our healthcare system is run by greed magnates profiteering off illness and it behooves them to not treat certain people, especially people suffering mental disorders. This is a recipe for disaster.

So how do we fix it?

  • Reform our justice system so it rehabilitates people instead of ensnaring them a cycle of recidivism.
  • Fix our broken-arse healthcare system so people can get healthy, especially those suffering mental disorders.
  • Fix our schools so people are properly educated.
  • Institute sensible gun control laws.
  • Pay people more and allow them more time off so they are less stressed (IMO, stress is as much a killer as cigarettes).
  • Bring back FDR's tax system so we can actually afford to do these things.
  • Fight the social stigmas around male emotionality.
  • Crack down on rightwing terrorists. I don't think it's a coinkidink that 3/4 of domestic terrorists are rightwingers.

There are a few other things that would roundaboutly result in mitigation or even ultimately eradication of gun violence in the US but these, I believe, are the main ones. Let's be real though. None of this shit is every gonna happen because somewhere along the line, conservatives convinced America that "liberal" is a four letter word.

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