Without getting too personal (I mean, you decide what you wanna share), when was the last time you were in a situation involving a man in which you were uncomfortable/scared? Why?

My neighbor has left me in fear these last few days. This is long..

I had a bird feeder in my yard for over a year. We noticed no problems. No one said anything. I thought I was on friendly terms with my neighbors. I would occasionally shovel their snow in the winter.

Apparently this week, there was a city council meeting in which they declared that bird feeders were now against city ordinance (even though they had info on their web site still saying they were OK).

So apparently my neighbor spent half an hour filming my yard from his yard that night at 4 am, commenting on the feeder, how he was going to report us, how my bird feeder was getting all the rats in town to get into his garbage, etc.

He acted as though he'd told us this numerous times and we had defiantly left it up. He had never spoken a word to us about the feeder or about the rats, and we hadn't seen evidence of them.

On Thursday morning, I'm out for a walk with my son when his wife comes out of the house and asks to speak to me. She tells me about something called lepto virus. Apparently dogs in the city have died from it. She mentions that the feeder is against city ordinance. I am polite, say I didn't know, I will take care of it, thank you for telling me. I immediately take down the feeder.

Her husband comes over and starts banging on my doors about 20 minutes later. I do not answer. I have seen how he has solved problems in the past, and from my perspective, I'm going, "The feeder is down. The problem is over." He goes from door to door for a total of 10 minutes, beating on the door. I'm home alone with my toddler. As the minutes wore on, I was getting genuinely fearful.

I decide to look up ordinances soon after this -- out of curiosity, as I didn't know about the council meeting at the time. What I find instead is a video about rats. I can clearly see that the house looks like my house.

Her asshole husband put the footage on YouTube, all without ever bothering to talk to me. He was loading it well before I even talked to his wife that morning. And then he had the audacity to start posting it in Facebook groups for our city, outlining the crossroads where we live.

Since our house is unique-looking, this is obviously a major safety concern. I'm finding these videos, learning about these dogs, and feeling anxiety flooding through me. I was terrified of vigilante justice and vandalism. I had trouble sleeping that night, did not open my blinds and did not leave my house.

The next day, I went to my mom's because I was afraid of being home alone with my son again.

Jerkwad started complaining in the groups that seed was left on the ground (my husband shop-vacced the yard that night). Even after that, he complains that we 'didn't bother picking up the seed' and that he saw rats in our yard eating it. He is going around the neighborhood, barking at people about rats, telling them what to do, and if they don't immediately do all of it, he starts posting pictures/videos, sometimes with context of where they live.

More humorously, after people started saying that his videos show that his yard is full of junk, he cleaned up yesterday. I guess he realized that he lives in a glass house.

I have started carrying mace when walking by his house now (long story, but with recent construction, we have to). When my husband, my son and I were returning home yesterday, he came and stood on his porch, staring us down. We continued walking as though he wasn't there, but I did give the top of my mace a little click...just to give him warning if he decided to pull something.

He's a big guy and from my understanding, a former/current officer. I've noticed that even though my husband is a smaller guy, he generally won't come over here when my husband is home. He comes over when I'm home alone.

I understood his concern and would've had no problem if he let it end with his wife talking to me. Or if he'd even just left a friendly note on my door. But no. This fucking asshole decides I should immediately know about these problems and takes it from 0 to 50 even after I've already done my part. He didn't mention my husband at all in his posts, just me.

We're getting quotes for privacy fences. I'm hoping the videos don't pick up in getting shared again. When I'm walking with my son, we will go a different way to avoid passing by his house. The first day it happened, my heart was racing, I felt sweaty and dizzy, and I couldn't believe it was happening.

I have not confronted the neighbor, nor will I. I'm backing everything up. I'd like to continue living here relatively peacefully. Hopefully that will be accomplished with a fence and a clipped, "I'm sorry, I can't talk," whenever they try to talk to me in the future.

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