If he’s saying that in that exact manner during disagreements I believe it goes against the meaning of the passage. Ultimately yes, you should submit to your husband, but he is to love you as Christ loves the church - which was laying his life down for the church and being a servant leader. The way this looks in my marriage is that in the few circumstances that my wife and I are deadlocked in her serious debate on an important topic, at the end of the day if we cannot resolve it, she submits to me. This has happened maybe twice in 5 years of marriage.

If he’s asking you to submit frequently and about somewhat inconsequential things I think that’s selfish and he probably ought to read the verse a little more carefully with a little more context.