This woman has a piss-poor taste in music.

  1. What did you do in 2015 that you'd never done before?
  2. Did you keep your New Year's resolutions, andwill you make more for 2016? I had a bunch of resolutions that got derailed when I got my mom's diagnosis the day after New Year's Day. I shortened them to 1) Get a menstrual cup and 2) Get an IUD. Life changing success on those fronts. My resolutions for 2016 are to find a way to do something physical weekly that I've loved in the past (yoga, boxing, archery, dancing, whatever as long as I do it regularly) and to have better pedestrian behavior (especially re. phone hygiene and street crossing). And not a resolution, but I'm looking forward to having more emotional energy to spend on more friends. I felt I had to stick to people who were good for me in the situation I was in, and for better or worse that wasn't everyone.

[Side note: I did also end up doing a "lateness cleanse", which I highly recommend for the chronically late. I forced myself to aim to be early for a month. For that month, I knew I was not allowed to try to squeeze in the extra tasks or extra make up or whatever makes me scooch my departure time back, and I was required to really check how long transit time would be in advance and contingency plan. I got ready well in advance so I couldn't get suprised by how long it takes to get ready. That one month has helped me be on time the whole year by forcing me to learn things timely people probably already know].

  1. Did anyone close to you give birth? My former roommate Molly had lovely Zoé Céleste who I expect will wrestle with those accents aigus her whole lovely life, and my dear mentoring friends and Burning Man parents had adorable Storry. And planworld of course!

  2. Did anyone close to you die? My grandmother died, but we had never been very close and certainly not since the Alzheimer's got bad.

  3. What countries did you visit? Canada for about 12 hours for work. Had other shit to do this year.

  4. What would you like to have in 2016 that you lacked in 2015? Equilibrium. Adventure.

  5. What date from 2015 will remain etched upon your memory, and why? Jan 2, the day my mom was diagnosed. Hopefully not September 25, when I got bad work news.

  6. What was your biggest achievement of the year? Being, I hope, a supportive daughter and a good partner through troubled waters.

  7. What was your biggest failure? Various lapses of varying seriousness in the above. Not being in touch/there for my friend in Indonesia enough. There were plenty of other lapses but I'm not really willing to chalk them up as failures since I think they were almost all deliberate deprioritizations or have been paid for thoroughly.

  8. Did you suffer illness or injury? Nothing to speak of.

  9. What was the best thing you bought? Doc Martens. Used, black, perfect.

  10. Whose behavior merited celebration? My mother's, my stepfather's, my boyfriend's, all of which exemplified grace and caring. Many friends including planworld.

  11. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed? Long list. The news has really gotten me down this year. I guess mostly refugee vilifiers, violent cops and their defenders, gunowners and advocates, and terrorists.

  12. Where did most of your money go? Student loans and rent, as usual.

  13. What did you get? A loving relationship.

  14. What song will always remind you of 2015? Really probably none.

  15. Compared to this time last year, are you: i. happier or sadder? Both. Love and grief are a funny cocktail. ii. thinner or fatter? Probably same but I feel better in my skin. iii. richer or poorer? My net worth is slightly less negative.

  16. What do you wish you'd done more of? Getting out and about - both traveling and exploring the city and its Events. Meditating. Keeping in touch.

  17. What do you wish you'd done less of? Wallowing.

  18. How did you spend Christmas? In Boston with family, nephew dog, old old friends, and boyfriend.

  19. What did you do for New Year's Eve? House party, thank goodness.

  20. Did you fall in love in 2015? Why, yes, actually.

  21. How many one-night stands? 0

    1. What was your favorite TV program? We watched all seven seasons of Buffy. It wasn't as big an accomplishment as it felt but it was a worthwhile endeavor.
  22. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year? This year I did a lot of emotional triage and gave myself permission to have no patience for and make no excuses for people I didn't feel deserved it. That is to say I let myself dislike more people than usual. I'd like to be done with that and be more generous with my time and affection this year.

  23. What was the best book you read? I read a lot for me this year (30+ books) but a LOT were YA trash and nothing sticks out to me as something I'll reread forever. The most recommendable were the Elena Ferrante books, Rebecca Solnit's The Faraway Nearby, and Roz Khaveney's Rhapsody of Blood series.

  24. What was your greatest musical discovery? Ryan Adam's cover of 1989. CL.

  25. What did you want and get? A loving relationship. I've been deeply lucky with fun and caring friends as well. Improved health for my mom.

  26. What was your favorite film of this year? Maybe Mad Max for sheer stickiness of the imagery.

  27. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you? It was 30, so I knew I would want a lot of attention and specialness. I threw a 90s party in a dive in the East Village followed by karaoke that I way overpaid for but hey 30 only happens once. I can't decide if this year I want something way more scaled down or just decide I want to do costume parties forever.

  28. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying? Family health. If I get more than one, greater job confidence for both me and J, resolution to J's housing crisis; justice wisdom and compassion globally.

  29. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2014? Does this go with Doc Martens and black skinny jeans? Is it charcoal and drapey? So I guess Eileen Fisher if she were an urban teen in the 90s.

  30. What kept you sane? Jonah. Friends. Jane Austen and YA dystopian fiction. Walking commute.

  31. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most? Eh.

  32. What political issue stirred you the most? Still Black Lives Matter, the refugee crisis, the patriarchy, the climate crisis.

  33. Who did you miss? Still my bestie from grad school who'd moved to Indonesia and now Portland. Greg in California. Anja in California. Michelle in Nashville. Myself when I was the person I was when I lived overseas.

  34. Who was the best new person you met? Uh, did I meet anyone new this year really...? ETA: Oh yes, met aoung03, cfvandijk03, and emweber00 in person this year.

  35. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in

  36. The people who will support you when things are the worst are the people that really matter. Invest in those people and be that person for others. Many other life lessons too long and much too presumptuous to go into here right now.

  37. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year. On to t

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