women are more attracted to the hot &cold drama, guy pretending to not give a shit about them more than a guy showing steady interest, affection ?

Yes, that's how people work if you don't express your interest in them.

I don't necessarily agree with the hot/cold thing but yes, he expressed interest in her and she reciprocated it. Hence why you should show interest and not be shy and reserved.

Yes i get all of that showing interest and being outgoing will get him noticed obviously

I deleted the post in fact cus i think i did badly in conveying what i meant , it was not like why shy ,reserved guys don't get attention (it's obvious why they don't) but more like when the guy pretends to care ,show interest then acts aloof and don't give a shit then i have seen many women (not every or even majority) getting curious, started chasing but when the guy was doing it was more mehh... interest from women( i see a lot of women saying on Social media that they like to chase and when guys show interest they lose it etc ,hence the post .....

Listen, I know a lot of people come here for a feel good pat on the back and reassurance that it's not their fault without putting in any effort to improve. Women are not that complicated

Lol yes and i myself hate that, everyone should put effort in making themselves attractive, hence i deleted, it was coming across as different from what i actually meant

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