Women are not 'complicated' - they almost always make it very obvious if they like a man

Yes you hit a real problem because this hypervigilance regarding sexual harassment is more likely to weed out the people who are a little bit socially awkward and would high-tail it as soon as they got a rejection. The people who are the creepy serial-harassers will probably keep doing it anyway.

I wish normal people did think that but unfortunately there are plenty of examples of it not being the case.

I wouldn't confuse being timid with being careful. If you've ever wondered why a guy hasn't asked you out, you could consider that it's not because he's timid per se but because the consequences are too high and you're not worth the risk of rejection. Rather than blaming him, you'd both be happier if the risks associated with rejection were lowered so he'd be more likely to ask you and you could both be happy. So you'd want to focus on minimising them.

Unless you don't want these so-called 'timid' men to approach you. In which case that just reinforces the original problem, that you can escalate the shaming and ostracization tactics to nuke these unworthy men off the planet... just tell everyone they're creepy and you'll get sympathy and they'll be socially destroyed so they won't bother you (or anyone else).

Or you could also consider that he's really just not bothered about dating, in modern society it's hard work with little reward, and a lot of guys have other projects on the go that they find more meaningful, myself included. That's a hard pill to swallow for women that view everything in terms of getting laid.

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