Women don't believe me when I say that I would never cheat, why is this?

First up, I don't think you're really "admitting" here so much as "bragging". That's cool. If you really are the sort of person who is completely immune to temptation and would never cheat, then you should absolutely own that and you've earned the right to brag about it.

That said. There are basically two types of people who say "Oh I would never cheat in a relationship, no matter what. Worst case, I would always break up with my SO before I cheated on them." The first are people who would do (and generally have done) just that. The second are people who think they would but have never actually been in that situation and don't understand just how strong the temptation can be. And there's no way to tell those two people apart.

Until you've been in that situation where you are 90% sure your SO's going to dump you in the next day or two, where you've spent the past three weeks straight in screaming matches, without a single intimate moment or touch between you. Until you've had that one 'one that got away' just come and throw themselves at you, or been put in that situation where you suddenly realise that you have literally 0% chance of being caught and nobody will ever know or has to find out or could possibly be hurt by it. Until you've actually fought through those situations and put your money where your mouth is, so to speak, then people will always take what you say with a grain of salt.

Because in your mind you're a good person (we all are, in our minds). And in your mind the situation is never really ambiguous, it's always clear cut and you're never truly tempted, you're always just 'fake' tempted. So it's easy to imagine yourself turning down the super hot person who's throwing themselves at you while your SO is out of state for two weeks on business. But when you actually find yourself in that position and every biological urge you possess is trying to get you out of your pants. Well ... it's a different story.

Not trying to say you're full of crap, but just that until you've lived these experiences, just saying you'd never cheat won't carry as much weight as showing it.

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