Masturbating is all about MY pleasure. Sex with someone else is always at least partly about their pleasure. And with a lot of men, it ends up being mostly about their pleasure.

Most men who tout themselves as being "all about the woman's pleasure" are still actually all about their own pleasure. Such as the men who have repeatedly pressured me to receive oral sex when I LOATHE receiving oral sex (slimy, disgusting feeling to me), because they want to "please me." It doesn't please me, but it's a turn-on for THEM so they don't care.

Most men who think they are great in bed aren't. I have found that the more porn a man watches, the worse he is in bed (in my own personal opinion.)

I don't enjoy being intimate with strangers.

I am monogamous and don't care to pick up a string of random people.

I am heterosexual, but not attracted to the vast majority of men.

Many men are pushy and domineering and I don't want to have a sexual encounter with a stranger who turns out to be like that because it would be stressful, exhausting and not pleasurable.

I don't want to invite a stranger over for sex who would turn out to be a rapist, murderer, stalker or psycho.