Women of Reddit, what innocent behaviors have you changed out of fear you might be mistaken for leading men on?

I'm sorry but fuck anyone that leads anyone on.

I recently got so casually told by a man I was speaking to, after 3 months, that he has a girlfriend.

I was going through a difficult time in my life and he helped me so much. He was one of the kindest people I had ever met. I appreciated his presence so much, we got along so well and had so much in common, that I truly thought what we had was going somewhere.

Now I know, this is how people get jaded. This is how people develop trust issues. I'm so hurt, and I can never trust a man after this, as he wasn't even a bad person.

I think both men AND women have a responsibility to not lead others on, because it only results in pain and confusion for the other side. There is absolutely no reason for it if you're already seeing someone else. Men and women should be more self-aware that they are doing this.

As for myself, I never lead men on. I make sure to tell them early in our interactions that I am not interested. This makes it so much less painful for the other person; I don't know why others don't have the decency to do this.

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