Women of Reddit, when did you first notice that men were looking at you in a sexual way? How old were you and how did it make you feel?

I was probably eleven or twelve, two years before I got my first period. I hadn't even begun wearing a training bra yet because I was still so lean. I had no hips, no boobs, didn't wear makeup. However, I was tall, maybe 5'3, 5'4? And basically all legs. I was meeting some of my friends at our local mall, and was waiting outside for them, since my cellphone didn't work inside the building at the time. This was in the mid 2000's, the time of denim skirts and Razr's. So I was wearing what all the girls were wearing in my grade at the time, a denim skirt, a tank top, converse, and a gaudy pink zebra hoodie I'd gotten from Hot Topic. The skirt wasn't terribly short, but since my legs were so long it looked like I was wearing a lot less. While I was waiting for them various groups of boys and men would walk past me saying crude things, or making inappropriate hand gestures. I was still very young so I didn't really understand what was happening, I just knew I felt embarrassed and oddly grossed out. Mind you, I was not used to guys being attracted to me, being tall was something the guys in my grade ridiculed, not revered. So their behaviour was mostly just confusing to me. It wasn't until years later that I understood what had happened. From then on it just kept happening, and not from boys my age. By the time I turned 15 the men who would call out to me were in their 30s. When I was still young I would say how old I was and they would apologize, sometimes even becoming repulsed with themselves. But as I grew older that tactic didn't work anymore. They began to blame ME. "Oh, I couldn't tell, you look older." "Wow, jailbait much?" "Look at how you dress though!" Of course, around this time I wanted to be considered attractive to men, so I still wasn't angered by it. Sadly, I was flattered. The age of consent where I live is 18, but by that time I'd already had grown men trying to sleep with me on numerous occasions. Despite knowing my age. It wasn't until recently that I realized how unjust and disgusting this behaviour is. So now I call men out on it, and it's wonderful. I'm making up for the years and years of letting this bullshit happen to me. There is nothing better than being able to take the power back after so long.

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