Women who “dated” older men as teenagers that now realize they were predators, what’s your story?

I “dated” a popular and charismatic teacher when I was 16-18. They weren’t official dates. More like e YTA study sessions because I was so gifted or something. And I do credit him with something. I had very low self esteem as a high schooler because of my learning disability and he was the only one who was any intelligence in me. And FWIW his extra tutoring DID help me succeed in college. But yeah, looking back he definitely had ulterior motives.

He would put a hand on me in suggestive or innocuous way and made me me feel like I had a father figure (I have a father married to my mother. He’s just deficient at that job in many ways. His response to me being bullied is 1. Don’t report my bully 2. Keep my head down and get over it) at some point I got the inkling I’m not actually attracted to him; he had a wife and a daughter, but I felt way more jealous of his daughter. His wife? I felt nothing about her.

When I was 19-20 I visited my hometown from college and we met up. He still seemed attracted we said we would have sex the next meeting. Then I thought wait, I bet he’s not that attractive with his clothes off. I was just not that into the idea and ghosted him. So a shallow reason, I guess. I just couldn’t get hot and bothered when I thought about his naked body so I just shrugged and moved on.

Later on it came out that he was dating/sleeping with several students.

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