A few years back I stopped speaking to my Father. He was financially, emotionally and physically abusive towards my Mother and one night I had a massive falling out with him and didn't speak to him for years after.

I thought cutting him out would work for me since I wouldn't have to deal with his shit anymore but it didn't. I'm realising years later I never dealt with the grief of losing my Father to his addictions and mental health problems.

I guess I'm saying it can follow you. Everyone's situation is different and you'll know what's best for you, but at this stage in my life I felt not speaking to him at all and hating him was more of a burden on me than anything, so I speak to him a couple of times a year, at arms length.