Although doesn't going to prison negatively affect your mental health too ? A rapee^tm might be able to move away from it after years of therapy, but there's no getting back the decades you spent rotting away in jail. I imagine someone will have a hard time trusting a woman (or man, or whoever did it) after that as well. Not to mention that even after twenty years you will still be viewed as a rapist, be on a watchlist that will make life difficult for you (adoption, job, etc). and there are much much less people who will support a rapist than a rapee.

Note that I'm simply arguing for the sake of arguing. I do not believe that one is worse that the other, I'm just trying to see all of you guys' viewpoints on this