Women who use PMS/hormones as an excuse for everything

I think it would behoove everyone to remember that the slice of a person you see in one context is just that, a slice.

Maybe some of those women you're ranting about have other, much larger problems that they keep private, and it takes a tremendous amount of energy to keep that from spilling into work. For whatever reason, they have judged that they can't share the real reason to their coworkers, so they default to a script that has been fed to them since childhood and that is generally considered socially acceptable for women to discuss, to a degree, with one another.

Maybe they're a complete fucking asshole with no self-control who is constantly blaming everything on external forces, because they're bad people.

Or maybe they're kind of a sad asshole who tries to keep their shit together but isn't very good at it, and that's most apparent when they're PMSing. And they generally like their coworkers, so they don't want them to think that they are being rude or mean out of real animosity, and they want to give an alternative explanation.

I think it's a great choice, from a time management and self-care perspective, for you to not expend any energy making up for the shortcomings of others in this regard. But I think that there is a real difference between making that choice and numbing yourself to empathy.

You remind me of myself. I think you hold yourself to very high personal standards, which is admirable, but I also wonder how kind you are to yourself when you fail to meet those standards.

And I also get that the people you live with can get themselves/their behavior under your skin like NONE. OTHER. So I get the ragey-angry part. But I don't think you were being a bitch, and I think that if you were more fair to yourself, "I get angry sometimes and say things that other people don't like" is more accurate than "I'm kind of a bitch sometimes."

/r/TwoXChromosomes Thread