Women with low self esteem, anxiety, or trust issues: How did you finally accept that your SO wasn’t out to ‘play ‘ you, and you allowed yourself to accept their love?

When their love was enough to make me feel secure. Consistency helps but it's not the whole package. I've found a lot of guys are very clever with word play and love to make a woman think they're in a relationship to reap the benefits.

The wrong dudes are just getting better at saying the right things. My anxiety has always, always been spot on. Getting older has helped my self esteem. I feel the most impervious to bullshit and feel no qualms about emotionally curb stomping a dude who thinks it's funny to play games or be outright disrespectful.

Also, I've worked in the sex industry and adult video stores. I've seen that underbelly when men thought no one was paying attention. Men who think that because they're wives spend money on manicures, that it's ok for them to spend money having sex with women. Guys who just dropped off their wives at the airport and think asking the woman behind the counter to let him give her oral sex is perfectly ok.

After years of seeing supposedly happily married men react this way, just makes me cringe. I really have no trust in men. They will always do what's best for them in that moment, regardless their relationship status. The only reason why they won't, is cause what they have at home wasnt easy to get. But even that gets tired apparently.

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