A male monk can climb all the way to being a Patriarch. A female nun... can like, feed ducks and pray the Jesus prayer until she dies. Sounds really "equal".

A woman cannot be a leader in this religion.

Contrast: Mother Maria of Paris, Empress Theodora, Empress Nana of Georgia and Equal to the Apostles, etc. I'm honestly dismayed that this has been your experience, but women definitely can lead, teach and read like men do. Moreover, it's wrong to look at the priesthood or diaconate as a "promotion".

"I do not think there are many among Bishops that will be saved, but many more that perish."

(St. John Chrysostom, Homilies on Acts)

Women aspire to sainthood as men do, but achieving sainthood, I think, has much less to do with celebrating liturgy or administering a diocese, and more to do with

pray the Jesus prayer until she dies

No one is saying that the Church's recognition of a calling towards teaching or ministering is equal for men and for women. But there are some ordained men who do these not even half as well as some unordained women.