Why won’t my man leave me alone about anal? What is so appealing about it for men to do with women? Does my fiancé sound like he’s being sus to you?

Some people like anal; some people don't. It's pretty clear in yalls case who likes and doesn't like anal here.

As modt gays will tell you, anal needs lots of lube and foreplay. Can't just ram it in bc it's a muscle. Gotta warm it up and let it ease up. It sounds like he just rams it up there. But even then, not everyone is into anal.

Have yall considered toys? Maybe he can get one of those silicone butt dolls.

But honestly, it sounds like yall really gotta sit down and have conversations about expectations, what yall like/don't like, and what yall can do together to make it work. It won't be magic overnight but continual conversations with feedback over time will help. Of course this is under the assumption that both of you are wanting to and willing to make this work.

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