With this emotional reaction and the content of this answer, you have virtually underpinned again that you should definitely work on yourself and perhaps also take advantage of professional help.
You immediately take the statement of a stranger as a personal attack and react passively aggressive and completely ignore that I have confirmed you in my first answer that you have done nothing wrong.
Apart from that, if you ask a question in an Internet forum, you must also expect that you will not only meet with encouragement here and you may also get answers that do not correspond to your point of view.
I do not doubt that your behavior lies in a difficult past. At the end of the day, however, these experiences are just that, they are in the past. You can't change them anymore. But you can learn from them and protect yourself from such people.
As I already wrote, there are many such people. You will not change them, but you can learn to deal with them and protect yourself from their behavior. I like to say it again, you did not act wrong, but for your own well-being you should learn to handle such situations differently.
P.S.: Had an alcoholic father and an abusive narcissistic mother. You are not the only one who had a difficult past. I also had to learn some things as an adult.
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