Work with me. I was married outside the RCC. The RCC sees me as an adulterer and my child as a bastard. Had I been married IN the RCC and cheated on my hubby THAT would been better than me being happily married outside the RCC. One was temp, the latter constant.

*I've never been unfaithful to my husband.

I am just pointing out the platinum level mind-fuck here. The RCC views my happy little family as not valid, at all, and would be okay with me leaving my hubby to marry a Catholic man in the Church since mine is a defect of form and thus not valid in their eyes.

Had I been married IN the RCC and had an affair, of course it would of been frowned upon, and my hubby could separate from me, but he would not be permitted to divorce me.

And currently I am viewed as a person in the state of constant adultery, going on well over a decade, and viewed as a worse sinner than I would be in the situation above.

Add all that to the fact that we are blissed out adoptive parents. The RCC is against of having adopted since they see us as pretending to be a family. Only those recognized by the RCC, not excatholics, are worthy enough to be parents. (I don't know how the fuck people love all their heart and tend to their child with significant special needs day and night by "pretending". Our child is our entire world and we love her with everything we've got.) *Then add that they judge her as well being that she was our blessing that came out of someone else's complicated situation.
The RCC is completely sick in their thinking.

Then I think about how my Catholic bro and his Catholic girlfriend AND their baby bought a house and live together. Do they get shit? Nope! Their baby will be baptized in June. Oh, and though they have premarital sex they are still getting a sacramental marriage here soon in the church!???

I was the "pure virgin", got married, worked my ass of to provide for my husband to go through 7.5 years of school/grad school...then had a child via adoption. Isn't that the Catholic way? But since I got married outside the church I am a adulterer, my kid is a bastard, my hubby is viewed as my live in bf...and somehow my bro is the damn saint???

Listen to yourself, RCC! You are toxic and sick!

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