Worried that my “daddy” is verbally abusive —and not daddy material.

You can have great memories of toxic people. I know the term "abuser" conjures up images of some kind of inhuman monster, but the truth is it's never black and white like that, there's always good times between the bad. You need to think about the bad times and how they affect you, how long those hurt feelings and insecurities last, and think about how you're on edge anticipating the change in him. Walking on eggshells like that, it eats away at you until you're not you anymore. Love yourself enough to demand better from the relationships in your life.

Planning what to say isn't enough. You need a financial plan, how much money do you need to save and how to save it where he can't find it, where you'll go and what you'll take with you, what you'll tell your family and friends, etc., how you'll handle the situation as you're leaving if he turns violent... it's all super scary to think about, but if you plan ahead and keep rehearsing it in your mind it will be easier to do when the time comes.

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