Worst meeting with potential in real ever (funny story)

Honestly you've taken my advice to take things in consideration as some sort of insult even though I did mention I'm not insulting. I don't know you nor will I pretend like I do but you seem to have taken offense to quite reasonable assumptions. Ontop of that I haven't said anything "disgusting" for you to get hostile. Seriously sister we're all strangers on here I've nothing to gain from insulting some random person on the internet.

I didn't assume anything about your personal lifestyle, I made a general assumption about a convert from a western society. Assuming a recent convert from the west might not have a lot of knowledge on islam, and assuming that becoming a muslim is a huge lifestyle change. Assuming those things of a convert is definitely a generalisation (which isn't a bad thing) but it is an ABSOLUTELY REASONABLE assumption to make. In wider society generally accepted practices whether dietary (pork/alcohol) or clothing, islam can have a vastly different view from the general society in the west. Even things like how to communicate with the opposite sex, islamic ethics and western differ significantly.

In addition one would have to learn articles of faith, arabic to recite salah, and all the rules and obligations surrounding the 5 pillars of islam. if anything it's you who has insulted and offended me by claiming what I said was "disgusting and sick". Come on sister be reasonable here. It's in fact just so weird to even think that you'd take such offense to that . That you'd think, assuming a recent western convert to lack knowledge and to perhaps have had to change lifestyle, is a "sicking" stereotype, is ridiculous. I don't even know what to say it's just flat out uncalled for. Remember I'm not talking about converts I'm taking about someone who is clearly a recent convert to islam.

Lastly about the marriage thing I did not speak of rights. What is your right in Islam is one thing and what you do is a different. I had the right to seek marriage as soon as I was 18 but that doesn't make it a smart thing to do. I was offering you sincere advice. It might take you months of talking, but that's my point. As a recent divorcee and convert all I was suggesting (key word: suggesting as advice) is perhaps you take some time before entering a relationship. I mean. Regardless of when you marry you're still building relationships with the intention of marriage.

At the end of the day though sister ofcourse you're free to do whatever you wish on obviously nothing I say is magically binding on you, I just asked that perhaps you consider my naseeha. You clearly disagree which I get that's your choice, totally cool. But to become hostile and insulting is not fair sister.

May Allah Grant you all the best in this life and the next

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