One of the toughest parts about trying to help people in these situations, is knowing when to bow out. And this isn't just directed at TRP men, but generally the people who need help the most are often the ones who are most abusive. I've been trapped in abusive situations before, with women, men, trans people, cis people, gay people, straight people, platonically or romantically. The fact is, when you reach out to help somebody, to put yourself out there, you make yourself vulnerable, as you absolutely must to help people, but that means that many times, you will get hurt. And at the end of the day, you must protect yourself, or otherwise the people you are trying to help, will only hurt you more.

I'm always afraid to tell people to help the people who need it, since honestly, its dangerous, for you and the people you're trying to help. And I always tell anybody who is in an abusive situation to get out, regardless of the other person, because many of them will tell you, and will make you feel, that if you leave, they can never get help. Guilting you into staying, making you feel like you're betraying them by putting yourself first. But the fact is, that isn't true, and while everybody deserves to be loved, it is absolutely not your responsibility to love anybody in particular.

So if you feel hurt, disgusted, or angry reading the things those people say, don't feel like you're a bad person for wanting to stay away. You're not. You're simply a human being. And I'd be worried about even calling the people who do want to help strong, since in my experience, no matter how strong you are, it will hurt eventually. Instead, they're simply the ones who make the plunge, so other people don't have to.