Would I (F19) be in the wrong for telling my boyfriend (18) that I am upset that he spent my birthday with his ex-girlfriend?

I really relate to your story and had almost exactly the same experience with me (21F) and my (now) ex girlfriend (21F). I myself am quite sensitive and can easily feel insecure, due to analyzing things to extremes. However, in this case scenario, the same I experienced, we have every right to feel uncomfortable. Additionally, if you’re anything like me, what he did to you will always be a problem. First you’ll ask him to stop talking to her and hopefully he will completely stop communication altogether! But you’re gonna wonder why he didn’t do that in the first place, and why it took You speaking up for him to realize how disrespectful it is to you. Additionally, further down the line you’ll wonder what was so special about their relationship that it was worth risking yours? Imo, exes being involved is always gonna be messy. Also, in our case, our partners knew we were uncomfortable with it (even if we both only implied Minimal discomfort) and they didn’t take further action to please their partner foremost. Instead, from my point of view, they chose their exes over us in a way. Hey, maybe we’re different and you’ll both get through it! But Ik me and you have similar situations and I dated my gf for more than a year and it sadly ended mainly because of her ex (even though communication with him ended). If you ever wanna talk you can shoot me a direct message! It feels nice to talk to someone who went through the same thing.

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