I would like to hear from people with BPD who are in long term relationships

I don't have borderline personality disorder. Or at least I don't think I do. But I am diagnosed bipolar I, and actually was diagnosed BPD for only a few days while in inpatient psych. When I got out of there my new psychiatrist "cancelled" that diagnosis, and the psychologist who did my disability interview also agreed that the diagnosis should not have been made in the first place.

That said, I'm replying because I've been in relationships with some very manipulative women with extremely unstable emotions, one of who I know for sure was diagnosed BPD and the other I only strongly suspect. In fact I know I'm attracted to women who have BPD, because, I know it sounds fucked up, but they remind me of my mother in many ways. She is a manipulative person who I don't believe actually loves my dad or any of her kids.

Both times it was rough. I found myself constantly questioning every single thing said and done because I assumed there was a selfish, ulterior motive behind things. And guess what? I was right about it. A lot. I realized I couldn't stay in a relationship that me so (colloquially) paranoid. Ended it. Wound up with another girl who was almost exactly the same, let's not talk about that. Ended that one too. Haha.

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