I have a sister with a similar personality to yours. I know I could never put up with what I see as her unintentional habit of making a small thing excruciatingly complicated. For ex. she is an extremely helpful person but sometimes I refuse her help because soon enough I will be inundated with texts from her updating me on changes, logistics and her need to know from me asap so she can continue her planning and executing of whatever she is doing.

I once accepted her offer to return some clothing items to a shop she works at. That turned into a week of her devising a strategy in order to use her store discount in the best way, and required me to jump through hoops and rearrange my week so that she could pull off what she wanted to do. But honestly I didn’t care after day 1. I just wished she could just keep it simple sometimes.

She gets really attached to an idea or plan that she sees no logical reason for not going the way she plans, except that most of the time, people are subjective and don’t feel like accommodating all the time.

It was your cake. But you had the idea for your husband to take it to work. I suspect that your husband knowing how you are only reluctantly agreed to get you to drop it because if he tried to talk you out of it, it would require too much energy and maybe he doesn’t give enough fucks at that moment. Then he refused to take it the next morning. And Im sure he did not feel like explaining it to you because I hate to tell you this but your husband’s subjective mindset (does not want to take it to work bc of his own reasons which likely is he just doesnt want to) is never enough of a reason for you.

My sister does that to me all the time and its so irritating.

Just chill out. Its just a cake. It doesnt matter that much.