It’s the responsibility of a non-monogamous sexual partner to be clear with the NEW partner that they are in a non-monogamous relationship.

ENM is not the default, monogamy is by far. Don’t criminalize us for assuming the default unless stated otherwise.

If you are ENM, please let your new sexual partners know. It’s not about judging you, it’s about personal hygiene. I’m a germophobe and a non-monogamous guy led me on this way for a while before I straight up asked him if he has a girlfriend. I had to ask twice. I ghosted him because that’s called DECEPTION. Glad I never screwed him. Not that I would without knowing him better anyway.