It fucks me up immensely every single time i match with a verified profile that is actually in the USA instead of Canada and they send me a couple messages, getting my hopes up its not a bot running a script, then they just want me to talk to them on instagram where they have onlyfans and a bunch of other bullshit linked or they're directly linking it and demanding you send them money to a cashapp.
It's just all like women with 4-5 kids who weigh more than me and i'm 6'3" or porn bots, or people who match and never talk because like women i've spoken to I didn't meet through the app freely admit they love to make accounts just to drunk swipe and boost their confidence.
Its the worst when its profiles that are talking about looking for folks who are genuine people with conversational skills and then you spend like 10 minutes trying to think of something clever or witty to say or you find something about them to inquire about instead of some generic basic bitch compliment and it just gets left on read or an "lol" and then they never answer anything else.
I matched on tinder 3 nights ago with a woman who was kind of cute for a hairy armpit/earth tattoos/no makeup/wild kind of hair/photos of her with her bong hippy chick. Not my usual type but man I need some new company, she was cute enough for me not to care about that stuff and it's conversation not facesitting so whatever.
Anyway, I just moved here so I asked her if there was any mushroom hunting around this area since I'm into mycology and its been winter and she apparently actually lived in this shitty town....she spent 35 minutes grilling me saying I must be some kind of stalker or something because how could I assume she would know something like that blah blah blah blah (and she said its terrible here because the land is all clay)
But anyway, she totally drilled me and made me feel horrible cause I was able to infer something about her interests or lifestyle from assessing some photos. This kind of shit happens to me all the time. Do women who are bitching about generic "hey" messages in their Bio honestly not want someone to put a little effort in?
I went on a coffee date 2 months ago with a girl, we skype called, she kept flirting with me and being really out right horny, like dude friends inappropriate horny and she seemed like she had a pretty good sense of humor, Every time we skyped thouugh she really had things zoomed in on her face and was super careful of her angles (red flag)
I go to pick her up to get some coffee at a Tim Hortons and smoke a spliff and shes about 130lbs heavier than she appeared to be in photos and camera calls Like barely fits in the passenger seat of my truck big. We go on the coffee date and I keep her laughing and engaged and i keep it light and non sexual, we get back to her driveway to smoke one and her fucking roomate starts recording us through the window on her cellphone because -he might be a serial killer-
She was a victim of some seriously fucked up trauma at the hands of the local police department and constantly trying to tell me all men are horrible and someone needs to prove something otherwise because of what had happened to her and I just couldn't handle being a fucking martyr for the cause. I mean who the hell wants to spend their life proving something like that to someone? How is that supposed to work? You're going to tell men "well all men are fucking terrible and disgusting pigs/rapists but you might be one of the good ones"
I told her when she asked if we were ever getting physical that "I think we should just be chill friends" and then she said she'll think about it and signed off skype, messaged me the next day to say "You know you opened up about a lot of shit, this isn't cool" Uh...what else are you supposed to do when someone non stop talks to you about trauma and Police Assault and fucked up shit? You try to be helpful and sympathize and talk about some sympathetic previous experiences. Anyway, she was apparently really hurt about that then started talking to me about how she liked to stick hypodermic needles through her arms and ears to cope, I noped out. She didn't mention any of that till I shut down any sexual possibility. What a fucked up manipulation tactic.
I've dated ONE person off tinder in like 7 years. They were younger than me and just showed up and refused to leave my house and kept coming back after work for like a year. I didn't even want to be dating them or in a relationship but they cried me into agreeing after we had some very hot fun sex and I'm a sucker for younger goth chicks and it was really just a whole lot of someone nagging me to let them come over 5 nights a week so I could sit there while they lay around in their underwear and watch terrible television I can't stand. I'd even try telling them "I have to work, i've seen you 3 nights this week, if we're not having sex or something I really need to get work done" Since that one had some lady issues and for months and months she'd constantly say something to the effect of "I can't wait to see you I'm so fucking horny oh my god daddy cum in me " and then I'd cancel off plans or call off work for "time with the girlfriend" and it would just be more terrible television shows with someone that won't even let me work in a computer across the bedroom without crying and when I do give them my undivided attention they'd just want to scroll snapchat and instagram with the phone vibrating off the bedstand all night long while they get bombarded by messages and dick pics from horny fuckboys. It was trash, absolute trash. She seemed super chill at first and then once the relationship started any time we had to have a serious conversation or there was a huge problem about her lack of respect for my home or possessions or anything confrontational at all, she'd cover her face with her hair and sit in a corner facing a wall looking like that girl from "The Ring" or some shit.
7-10 years ago I used to go on so many hilariously bad dates off these apps, or random adventures, or just taking strangers out to talk, smoke a joint, and eat tacos, my treat.
now its all just bots, stress, and demoralizing bullshit. I fucking hate this clown shit.