Why is writing an Online Dating profile so difficult for INFJs?

I was very allergic to these online dating sites. Not organic at all.

The one time of 5 days l decided to try out of curiosity, l had no idea what to write. I wasn't even seriously looking, bc l was so focused on my career. Ironically, l met one of my most serious life changing relationships within the first few days and we were inseparable for two years until circumstances pushed us away. So in that way, l do recommend trying dating online now, but you have to be brutally brutally honest.

So basically, l showed my worst self, rather than impress. If they like the worst me from the start, then they'll like the best parts of me, l thought. And I wasn't willing to reveal my good/soft side to anyone. Also I'm good at talking or analyzing others rather than myself so l used that strategy. I was a straight up b-word, cut to the chase description. I wanted someone who can read through my writing and filter out as many ppl who expect me to impress them.

I told them about my philosophy of dating apps and how l don't believe in it lol. Then l told them l refuse to talk about myself, and refuse to post a picture, and listed in detail exactly the impossible idealistic kind of person l wanted. I thought a smart person can figure out who l am by what l want. The one guy who l ended up having a serious relationship came out rude to me with "we are meeting tonight at here and here. No chatting. Let's go."

Never chatted. Just met. Worked out really well, ironically. Talked almost half the night. Almost married. Lol. One of the craziest relationships l've ever had.

So go out there and ngaf. Faster way to filter.

/r/infj Thread