For me it would have been how you said what you said. If you would have said to me what you posted, I’d be angry also. Even if I was asking because I already knew the answer. A lot of this is delivery.

But I also think it is an important conversation to have. Prioritization of ones health is important. I went into a relationship with someone at the heaviest I’ve ever been and he is the fittest he’s ever been. We both knew what the other looked like when we went into it but yet the physical attraction thing came up. However the difference in our situation is that right before I had met him I had already decided I wanted to get into shape and started working for it. I had to decide in the moment of that very uncomfortable conversation whether or not I could be in a relationship with someone who isn’t as attracted to me as he would be if I was fit. For me I didn’t feel insecure or uncomfortable with the conversation, even though it was embarrassing to hear that spoken out loud, because I am doing something about it.