sometimes we may need to upgrade our spirit guides. even if something like that were so, a spirit guide wouldn't tell you something that would just put you through a lot of anguish. so I think there is a problem there. And problems do occur with spirit guides.
also, maybe you have gone through a lot of bad things for a long time, what you need is to break out of this cycle you are in. Figure out what is causing it. I'm glad you are doing a little better. I don't like the suffering again and again, i think what i think it comes down to is deeply forgiving ourselves for the original things we did that cause us to live out painful situations again and again. and thus break it down. When you can absolutely say I deserve better than this, I've learned everything I need to, and I am not getting put through such and such again. And work through that with your higher self and also figure out very thoroughly what am I supposed to learn from this lesson. And just pray very sincerely for grace to release from these terrible cycles, being ready to change yourself and let go of your old ways in as big a way as you can.
Do this and eventually I think you should see some kind of change. Though in our world things may take a while to show themselves or be subtle.