I wrote a list about the biggest things and recurring behaviours NMom does that hurt me in the past 2 years. I ended up with 23 separate things.

You're very welcome. In my brief experience in narc survivor support groups, a large percentage of us suffer from complex ptsd, which is a more challenging form of ptsd caused predominantly by emotional abuse and there are many layers to our suffering and patterns, stemming from the abnormal childhoods we were subjected to by emotionally neglectful and abusive parents. The tough part with understanding all of this is also the understanding that there is no quick fix and that this has to be an ongoing journey and endeavor for pretty much the rest of our lives. But healing is possible. The author himself is a survivor of emotional abuse and gives examples from his own healing journey which is helpful. I do feel very overwhelmed from time to time going through this book, so I take my time. But it's really good to be able to recognize and start naming some of the reactions that are happening to me. A lot of us go through what is called "emotional flashbacks" "dissociation" "attacks by the inner critic" but we don't know what is happening and that makes everything a lot more confusing. In fact, complex ptsd is sometimes confused by some experts as mild forms of mental illness, because they are not familiar with emotional abuse and trauma. So we all need to understand this phenomenon in order to avoid involvement with ill-informed or non-informed experts who may cause more harm than good.

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