Wtf is this shit

Admittedly I used to be somewhat like this to my current girlfriend of three years when we first started dating at age 18, although not nearly as extreme. It was never a conscious effort (which it never is) to be clingy, I really would just start to panic and launch into this somewhat uncontrollable worrying state if I hadn't heard from her for an hour or two, so sometimes if i was having a particularly challenging day for my anxiety I would obsess and start texting or calling her, which I now realize put unfair expectations on her. This was all compounded by the fact that we met in college and had to be long distance when we went home from school.

She was like you and felt that even for a committed relationship, texts aren't important and that people should just reply when they get a chance. I am/was of the opposite mindset and that was extremely difficult for both of us. So while obviously the suicide threats and implications of cheating that you experienced are far worse and definitely a sign of someone that has unhealthy thinking that needs work, I do sympathize with him, since it seems as though he definitely has some sort of anxiety/depression. It took a serious conscious effort on my part to control my worrying and not take her non responsiveness as a sign that something is wrong so that we could compromise and both be content with our long distance communication. Now I am happy to have time to myself where I don't have to be tied to my phone, which is a ridiculously stupid stress factor that has come about for us in the millennial generation.

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