WTF is up with R4R???

It was me. I deleted the posts. I'm not sure but you seem to have a lot of anger around this subject. What I do gather though is that you don't seem to think I'm cut out for dating, and you're right. Something you're also right about is I do want the reader to put some thought in. I think it's an extreme over generalization to say that how I describe myself is how anyone can describe themselves. I know that that's patently untrue because I've seen many ads and profiles and see how men actually do describe themselves. My goal was to simply set myself apart and say, however cliché, that I am actually different because, contrary to what your assumptions seem to be about me, I am different. But yes, you're right, I took a somewhat low effort approach, but not because I'm lazy: I wanted to avoid writing a book about what makes me unique as an individual and simply show that anyone who read my post would know I am, at the very least, trying to take this new (to me) approach to dating in order to simply garner a direct message, after which I would the give the kind of details you're talking

What is proven to me a bit though from your comments is I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't. No matter what I write, I'm going to get someone jumping down my throat saying I'm putting in low effort, sound (somehow) like every other person out there, and have given nothing in my description of myself that would make any woman talk to me.

And then you decide, for whatever reason, to take your offensive stance to another level and assume that I'm essentially going to act like an angsty incel, pouting that my low effort post didn't work and I'll just jump to blaming women for my problems. Honestly, where do you get off acting like that? And it's after a whole lot of posturing and slew of arrogant opinions that I never asked for.

Seriously, what the fuck? I'm just really curious how it is that we've exchanged two comments and you seem to know everything about me. I know in reality you couldn't possibly know the remotest details about me or my life (as you point out, my post was seemingly so excessively generic I could be describing literally any human on planet earth), so why all the assumptions and jumping right to personal attacks?

I do have good news: you are definitely not in the target audience of my attempted r4r post, and I hope to God no one with your personality thinks they are either.

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