studies claim wildly disparate numbers estimating from 500,000-1,000,000 no sources but I'll ignore that for you
Look at Iraq, civilian deaths were in the millions.
Under 1 million is not the same as millions as you stated. I am far from a US apologist or war mongerer, the bombing of Iraq was horrific and far too many civilians have died. The entire was was a disgrace that should never have happened and many politicians should be hung with regards to it. Every single civilian death is a tragedy.

But that doesnt change my statements validity, a civilian in a war now is safer than a civilian in a war previously.

Look at this data:
http://www.slate.com/content/dam/slate/articles/news_and_politics/foreigners/2014/12/141209_Charts-deathsin-genocide.jpg.CROP.promovar-mediumlarge.jpg
(note the y axis is logarithmic)

we see that by 2013 the rate of civilian killing had fallen by an order of magnitude since the mid-1990s, and by two orders of magnitude since Rwanda. Though comparisons to the cruder data of previous decades are iffy, the numbers we have suggest that the rate of killing civilians has dropped by about three orders of magnitude since the decade after World War II, and by four orders of magnitude since the war itself. In other words, the world’s civilians are several thousand times less likely to be targeted today than they were 70 years ago.
http://www.slate.com/articles/news_and_politics/foreigners/2014/12/the_world_is_not_falling_apart_the_trend_lines_reveal_an_increasingly_peaceful.html