(XPost from AskWomen) Do unnattractive men feel invisible/ignored?

So I didn't read everything… but I didn't really see anything from a man who claims to be unattractive and ugly… however since I am both, I will reply.

Most men do feel invisible to women, and that is true to an extent because women aren't the chasers usually. However, the times women approach men, I am never one of them. The best example I can think of, is when 3 of my friends and myself went to a bar (The other guys were better looking than I am) and three women approached us. Everything I tried to say was met with an awkward laugh, or just ignored. Guess which guy didn't get any of the numbers from those girls.

However it’s not just that, you notice other little things. Ever walk by a girl and she gives you a friendly smile? That doesn’t happen to me. I remember at work walking down a hallway, and there was a guy ahead of me. I saw the girl smile at him, but as she walked by me she turned her head to avoid looking at me. I was in the break room talking to some co-workers and a woman joined in the conversation, she refused to even glance in my direction while keeping interest in the other men (and one female who was with us). Women, who will happily talk to other men, talk to you as little as possible. Sounds like what you deal with in high school right? Well I’m a full grown adult over 25, and this still happens.

I know what most of you are going to say “It’s your confidence level” or “You just need to change how you present yourself” or “Maybe you are boring” etc… Trust me I heard it all, and I can promise you, it’s my looks that do it. (I've had good friends admit to me that I am indeed ugly, and when people don’t see me, they treat me much differently).

Anyway I could keep going, but hopefully you get the point. I’m not bitter about it though because I know men do the same thing to ugly women. It’s just the hand I was dealt, and instead of focusing on that, I focus on the positive. I have a great job, and the few friends I do have I know are truly people I can trust since they look past my flaws and stick with me.

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