"Yes I cut you off but it's only because you handed me the scissors."

Thanks. The landlady was already saying she wanted the property back because of a dispute over her wanting to do inspections every 3 months that she hadn't agreed with me when I signed for the place. (You can evict tenants after 6 months in UK without having to justify it but you have to at least apply to the courts.) She decided to bypass that and tried intimidating me into leaving instead (illegal). My mother was involved because at the time she was the guarantor for the property. So she emailed her behind my back saying she would 'help' and a few weeks later turned up with my Aunt and my NGrandmother who all then spent 1/2 an hour yelling, banging on the doors and windows and throwing stones trying to terrorise me into opening the doors so NMum could grab me and drag me back to leave with her (i.e. kidnap). I tried to close one of the windows and both Aunt and NMum grabbed hold of them to try and stop me shutting it! I had to call the police who came and told the 3 of them to leave since I was an adult and could chose who I let in my home. After arguing with the police and not getting their help in kidnapping me NMum gives up and the 3 of them leave. I knew then I would never speak to her again. How can it be okay ever again after you have had to call the police on your own mother?!

Landlady did eventually take it to court and submitted a copy of the email my mother sent her (in which she had told her how ashamed of me she was) as proof that I was a 'bad tenant' that she needed to have evicted asap. I got a copy of the email along with the court papers. I was so horrified that she had gone behind my back and betrayed me like that; but it at least confirmed that I was on the right track with NC.

Unfortunately the court didn't accept my defence and I got made homeless a few weeks later. I had to put all my stuff in storage and stay in cheap hotels for a week until I could take the first crappiest flat that came on the market. It's been nearly 2 years now and I've moved to a better place. Everytime I think I should really ring my mother, I am being a bad daughter etc I have a look at that copy of that email which I still have and I know there's nothing to go back for.

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