I dated a woman who identified as a feminist. She asked me if I'd consider taking the male version of the pill if it ever got made. Said that I was sexist because my response was that I'd weigh up if it was safe and how it would compare to other contraception methods I could use. She also cried and started arguments when I was too tired to have sex with her and started an argument that I never took her anywhere on the way back from a weekend away I paid for. My response was 'you're being kind of mean' (exact words) and she said she didn't feel safe. I have friends who are feminists who I respect greatly not because of their feminism but because of their friendship but I will never date another person for whom feminism is the central axis their identity hinges on cos I have no good will left for someone damaged and controlling like that.