“Your body count is a reflection of your morals and character” No it fucking isn’t!

I definitely think location and cultural environment and exposure make a difference. I was abused and my body rented out as a child paired with some highly traumatic events in my youth led me down a path rife with promiscuity.

I’m almost 30 now, and sitting well over 400. And it’s something as the years have gone by that I’ve grown very ashamed of.

Not because of how gross it is sleeping with people, because it’s not so long as you’re safe. But because I was so desperate to find absolution in another person, and never took the time to give it to myself. I could’ve saved myself a lot of heartache if I’d have listened when I was told the only person who can give me the validation I wanted is me.

Obviously I’m an outlier amongst the crowd but I wouldn’t say that 30 is a high number. Most people my age I know surpass that by double.

They try to find forever in someone, and have person person hurt them, then they give up on love and cope by getting under as many people as often as they can until they’re unfulfilled and their loneliness only ever sated in the throws of it all.

Sometimes, high body counts just mean someone enjoys casual sex and has a healthy safe lifestyle. But from my own experience. It’s usually a reflection of either their own insecurity, or their lack of finding anything they truly want forever.

And that’s not a bad thing really. I like to think of it as if someone has the tenacity to give it that many shots regardless of however many fruitless or painful outcomes, then they’re a strong and enduring person, who if you DO match well with them, could make a great partner.

At least that’s how I validate myself.

I’m in a pretty big city. And everyone could be a potential partner if the vibes are right. So the options are virtually limitless. But I could imagine in a rural area especially one of those everybody knows everybody (and judges the fuck out of each other) it would be a lot more common to have more reserved body counts or else Chatty Cathy the modern day town cryer will paint a red A on your chest and you’ll be a leper amongst society.

/r/rant Thread Parent