Has your SO ever made up a lie to test if you were faithful?

So much no, and the context makes it worse.

So here's her reality, to the best of my reasoning: men are selfish jerks. They are not people. They don't have feeling. They will either cheat or they won't. This is, of course, a lie. Selfless, emotionally sensitive men cheat. Heartless, emotionally cold men stay with their partners. "Guys" would leave, ergo you are a species unto yourselves. Like half the population fits into a behavior map. IF ONLY IT WERE SO. I'd make millions mapping it out and explaining it.

You are a guy. Ergo, you'll always be suspect of being the selfish jerk. Ergo, this test isn't one but one of many. And you WILL fail one. Whether you fail intentionally or incidentally, you will fail. You'll fudge a truth, you'll lie a little, and that will be the end of that. Because, apparently, all men lie.

And in her own service, it is okay to crush you because...all men lie. That hurts worse for me. Like, if you tell me all puppies pee on the carpet, I'll believe you. I've had a lot of puppies. They all do pee on the carpet. But if you try to tell me it is okay to spray the puppies in the face with hot peppers because ALL PUPPIES pee on the carpet...well, go fuck yourself. All puppies have accidents, even the best trained. And NO PUPPY deserves to have hot pepper to the face or nose. It's not a good way to train them, it is cruel, it doesn't effect change, and can in fact, create aggressive and inhibition behavior you do not want. Just...don't do it.

You want a partner you can trust: You vet them slowly, carefully, with good radar. You trust a little at a time. You make them meet their promises. And then.......you hope. Because no matter how well you trust or vet or promise, people still fuck up and do a stupid thing you can't forgive. IT HAPPENS. If you can't handle that, you stop dating and you move on. Otherwise, you say everyone is human, everyone is flawed, I can't deal but move on and grow and I wish you the best. Or I hope you die in a fire. Or something in between. But you move on! You date someone else, you trust someone else, you love someone else! That's how alllll human beings get this done.

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