It’s whatever y’all are comfortable with. I found my first time I was extremely nervous. I wanted to meet the single solo. My hubs met him for drinks about a week before. I met him for drinks and then back to play. We videoed and I sent my husband clips of those videos, while we grabbed a bite to eat. My husband met us at the hotel after we ate. I was so much more comfortable. He wasn’t sure if he would participate or watch. He ended up participating and we all had an amazing time. Just the way it worked for us. I know many don’t play solo at all and I respect that. A lot of judgement is thrown at those who do play solo. That scenario worked for all involved for us.