Healthy and routine masturbation using only your imagination rather than porn is key in my pornfree commitment. So, I recommend fantasizing not only about bodies and sex acts, but also feelings and connections with people you know even if only fantasy. I know this sounds counter intuitive but you need to ensure that you don’t neglect your sexual needs. When you have a sexual urge; the urge to open the porn comes because it’s a cheap, fast high that causes immense arousal. But it’s also impersonal and devoid of love and anticipation.

Plus, like you mentioned porn often features disgusting, violent, misogynistic and immoral acts which are easy to stumble upon even we’re trying to only view “vanilla/ethical/romantic” porn. I used to search a million terms to try and help like “loving romantic married couple gentle vanilla sex” and somehow still see gross shit in innocently titled videos. And also, human trafficking, sexual coercion, rape and revenge porn is a major issue and you never truly know the circumstances or exploitation of what you’re watching.

Instead, take a nice long (and pornfree) time to warm up - take a hot shower or lay in bed and give self massage rub your body sensually (not sexual parts- legs, breasts, head, hips) while getting further turned on by imagining a date with someone from real life who you think is hot or that you have feelings for. Then imagine sex with them with your eyes closed while you masturbate. Fantasize about the sex acts that you’re really craving. Usually for me imagining the acts I’m craving with someone I have a crush on brings me to orgasm. It’s the only way that I’ve been mostly pornfree for going on 5 years. Whenever I relapse (probably happened 15 times or less in 5 years) I realize that the reason it happened was that I neglected giving myself masturbation and orgasm until my sexual urges were so pent up that I went looking for the porn.