The girls in my ward apparently had an issue with modesty, although I never noticed it. I remember the bishop coming in on more than one occasion to tell us it was our responsibility to cover up, and that the ym would be grateful to us for not giving them dirty thoughts. I also was never taught I had any choice but to be a stay at home mom. Like, I was embarrassingly old when I realized there were other options.

I read this in a thread about a month ago and I just loved it, it kind of explains how there can be sexism even if the victims don't realize it.

The church treats women badly, so women should all just want to leave, right?

The church doesn't "treat women badly." It devalues and disempowers them. It treats them as beautiful flowers, as objects whose worth comes from their beauty, purity, ability to support and nurture, etc. It tells them they aren't here to make decisions. That's what men are for.

Under this system, women don't feel like the church is mistreating them. After all, just about every other talk in sacrament meeting is about how great and spiritual women are, right? The church loves women!

Women are left to turn the frustration of living in a patriarchal, misogynist culture back upon themselves. They're left to feel guilty for not living up to the church's ridiculous ideal for them. They don't feel like they're being abused - they feel like they're inadequate.

Then who comes along offering redemption? Who offers you the chance to make yourself better, to more closely conform to the ideal? The church, obviously. They trap you in a cycle of abuse and ask you to thank them for it.