Start working on kegel exercises with him. Start him using a mild laxative. He's not going g to want to strain. He wont be able to list more than 10 lbs for a month. Enforce the hell out of this. Try and avoid the pain pills as much as possible. They stop up the bowel. If, he's really in pain, try tylenol. A canvas shopping bag can HB e used to carry the catheter bag. Also, some water based lube will be handy to keep the catheter tube from irritating the tip of his penis. Sitting on low chairs, car seats, etc will.be difficult for awhile. Dont expect the incontinance to go away as early as a month or two. Jt can take a long time. Stop eating and drinking bladder irritants. Caffeine will not be his friend for some time. If he's overweight, lose some, it will help. You might need a waterproof pad for a little while on the bed for a little while. Get him up and moving. Short walks frequently.