Wow! Crazy how similar our stories are! I've never heard about twin phases but im definitely going to look into that, sounds really interesting. I think that independance is really important and when we ended up being seperated we didn't know what that loomed like because we hadn't ever been seperated at such an intense level. Maybe one would be at grandmas while the other was with mom or a friends or something but not ever during activities. We played all the same sports, took the same lessons. So being seperated at such a crucial point in our lives with no independance in a vulnerable place and time, was a recipe for disaster. I am so so thankful to have my twin back and be in a good healthy place in my life too. It's cool to be independant but have someone who has your back no matter where, when or why.