I love my mom but she has belittled me in the years or fatshaming me in front of strangers and other BS that are now haunting me.

My now fiancé chose to propose me in my home country (we live abroad) so that I would have been able to share it in person with my family.

When I got engaged and showed her the ring, my mom just laughed and asked if it was fake. And then told my fiancé he should be keeping an eye on the ring because I am a mess and I would have lost it soon. She didn't show any happiness for me/us and I felt awful. Like I was a 3 y.o. that can't value such things.

Needless to say this has led to me feeling awful about the engagement and not happy about it. It has led to a crisis with my fiancé since because of this behaviour and other family dynamics I didn't enjoy it.

We didn't call it off but we'll maybe do an intimate redo so I can cherish a good memory.

I am doing therapy and despite its hard, it has helped me go through things and set my boundaries. I learned that my emotions shouldn't depend on the worth people assign me. I recommend therapy then.

You are loved. ♥️