Thanks for sharing your ideas on this.

This why I will continue to discuss the different dilemmas that I have including the ones like these about Marriage, because of people like you who strive to be part of a supportive environment such as this subreddit where young fellows like myself can get to have the chance to engage in a diverse discussion and I assure I have been learning a lot from here yet I still have my own points that I disagree about.

I admit that I was not wise choosing the best words that describe my irritation about the matter.

I moved to Canada by my self for about 3 years now and it feels like I am in my thirties because of the amount of responsibility that I had to take on my shoulders in terms of school, work and life.

Loneliness and the lack of companionship been killing me for a while now, college amplified it by light years.

I also agree with most of what you have mentioned, however if like what you were saying that a women in this day and time can provide for herself without the need for a man then why are we still being told that: listen boy a man in our tradition is assiduous, hardworking and self policing?!. Women are being greatly empowered unlike old times (although not yet as men) and Muslim women are included. Like how much exactly are we expecting from a young dude?

If it is not about his job, grades, volunteering etc.. although they are needed then what is it about oh it is about being a gentleman as well. I think these are all semantics that if applied to be practical in a society we will see an exponential increase in the age of men and women who are thinking about marriage because it is no more affordable socioeconomically for them until they hit a point past 25 where marriage becomes a complementary thing.

I also sense an unfair tendency towards feminism in your comment, by saying why would a woman need you buddy she can do everything by her self and you need to be nice to her. ; why should she marry you?! Like since when we have this complications. People have been marrying for generations. Now I understand the dynamics of every generation are different but we are loosing our ability to be humane about one of the most fundamental needs which is being with the other gender. But boy lower your gays and work hard, then I might consider your candidacy for the position I mean for my daughter. Like what an economist way of looking at the core of human relationships.!!!

The comments that I have throughout this post project only the experiences that I have been going through which can not necessarily represent everyone's.

And I am not rushing at all and I should not be this a wife not a car. I completely understand but it is not like I have the one and I am pressuring her into getting married tomorrow. I realise that there will a learning curve and good amount where we sort things together to navigate through it, but from my own personal opinion I can't seem to see that our sisters in this are any where close to be considered, which was very disappointing to me. I was thinking our sisters must be at the top of the game in at least the readiness of opening such a topic but that is not the case.

Indeed self development is the best thing to do at the meantime.

I hope that the time won't come where our Muslim women are asked what do you have to bring to the table under the name of gender equality.