Send her there, but with a sense of caution.

My mother in law and I definitely don’t have a good relationship, and I’d prefer to burn her at the stake than have dinner with her, after some of what we’ve dealt with over the last 8 years. But that sub is off the charts...narcissistic? Maybe that’s the right word?

It’s 20% real stories that you can empathize with, and seek comfort in. But the rest are horribly deluded, multi-episodic fan fictions of women making up masturbatory stories about how their MIL attempted murder by poisoning the grandchild, and next week stole their car, and next week fucked the husband (their child) and believe that Trump is Jesus reborn.

The most popular posts have absolutely no basis in reality, and the audience feeds into it in a weird and unhealthy way. Encouraging divorce, suggesting sexual abuse, insisting on restraining orders...

I’m a social worker. I get unhealthy relationships. But that sub can get very toxic with assuming everything is one, and insisting on the nuclear option as a first resort.

If your partner wants some validation, it can be a good place to glance at. But make sure they know to take it with a grain of salt, and know it’s mostly writing exercises for horribly bitter people that can’t admit their own shortcomings and have to have a scapegoat.

Your problem sounds a lot like what I’m dealing with, OP. But I’m aware that there is a line between telling my husband “I think your mom is espousing some ideas and behaviors that I don’t want our kids around” and “she killed my 20 year old cat! And she definite raped you as a kid! And murdered your dad!”

And my husband and I can come to a normal agreement about MIL, because after being a member of that sub, it’s not hard to draw an ick line of sanity, and stay in the right side of it.