An honest answer: I’m not the cheat-er but I am the other guy... and honestly I never thought I would be in this position.
It really doesn’t make sense. You develop feelings slowly and somehow we end up together in a position where our inhibitions are lowered, and wham.
Now while we haven’t had sex and hopefully don’t (because we both know we could so easily let each other have our way—we are now avoiding seeing each other and both agree we shouldn’t really talk), we did make out for like... 2 hours and there was lots of feeling up and down and all around. And then over like two days sexted excessively.
She loves him, but we also love each other. It’s fucking confusing. Judging from what our discussions have revealed:
no we don’t regret what happened between us. Our chemistry is great and we’ve had tension between us the better part of a decade.
Yes, we feel like shit for doing this to someone who doesn’t deserve it.
I understand why people hate cheaters. We’re doing something incredibly shitty. I can’t defend my actions based around my normal social values. But it really is something that just happens, and it doesn’t make sense how until it happens to you.