Welcome! Be wary of saying these things, a lot of it sounds escort-y. Remember sugaring should be like a relationship with a extra bonuses. No issue in being straightforward though, any legit SD will know how the lifestyle works and won't be offended by money talk. Just watch your wording. I honestly like being blunt, most SDs will not hesitate to bring up sex so why be nervous bringing up $?

1. [Wouldn't recommend this as many legit SDs will reject you solely for this, it sucks but that's the lifestyle. If you're very firm on this then obviously do it (don't push your own boundaries) but be prepared for rejection. Typically only expect this if you're in top % (attractiveness-wise) of SBs in your area] "I'm so glad we're talking! I'd love to meet up with you this week if you have some free time. I was thinking lunch? I am looking for *** for a first meet, let me know if that meets your expectations."
2. [Don't charge a different amount for intimacy, this isn't escorting. It's a relationship. If you're concerned, raise your allowance to an amount that you'd be comfortable being intimate for. Would recommend saying this before a m&g]. "I was hoping we could discuss allowance before we grab dinner so we know each other's expectations. I'm looking for a monthly/weekly allowance once beginning an arrangement, my range is ***-*** if we're meeting (however many) times per month. Are you happy with that?" [I like to give a range where my expectation is actually the lower number I offer, I also may alter it depending on how often we're meeting up versus another SD. Ranges make it sound less demanding and more comfortable for SD. And be FIRM on your expectations, never settle. If you're getting no success, check out this for average allowances in your area]
3. Just ask for it when you meet up. If you don't feel comfortable asking straight-up then please don't sugar lol. No legit SD would ever expect to pay you AFTER being intimate. For a date, they'll probably give it to you at the end in cash. If you're in a solid arrangement with trust developed then there won't be an issue asking before the date, but if they're only a POT then expect it at the end. Do NOT accept online transfers until you're in an arrangement where you 100% trust them. Cash is king, as they say on here. "Can I have my allowance now?" Is completely fine. They know why you're there with them, this should not offend ANYONE. If it does, RED FLAG.
4. Why are you emailing? Get a fake number, google number or textnow is fine. Or you can use an alternate platform like Signal or even Snapchat. Idk why you'd email them but that gives scammer vibes. I'd block a SD for even asking to email lmfao. "Here's my number ***-***-****, text me!" Lots of SDs are sensitive with sending personal photos but PLEASE get them before meeting. Just be careful how you ask, as to not sound like a blackmailer. Once you've talked for a bit, then ask "Can you share some more photos of yourself? I'll send some of myself as well!" Should be fine. If you do this, expect that you're going to have to send more photos back to them. I'd honestly recommend a phone call/skype/zoom before meeting as well.

This lifestyle takes a lot of work and FIRM boundaries. If you don't feel comfortable setting those boundaries then do NOT do it! Again, this isn't escorting and I personally wouldn't even call it SW lol. A real SD is just a normal guy who enjoys providing financially for an attractive woman they're seeing. Read up on this for advice on getting started and check out similar posts to this for more advice.