Hey, I know this is an old post, but I recently was linked to this sub, and I'm the person who made the original thread here.
I don't really see why this was posted here? Even if someone is the peacemaker of the family, you'd expect that they wouldn't talk to a family member anymore if there were multiple people accusing her of severe physical and emotional abuse (as well as corroborating evidence, such as CPS visits and arrest records).
I mean, if you found out that your best friend was a pedophile, you wouldn't talk to them anymore, right? You'd imagine that if your best friend's victim saw you talking to them after the abuse allegations had surfaced, they'd feel pretty hurt, right? It's an analogous situation.
If you look at my post history, you will see that my mother is a very violent and abusive person. She regularly hit us with belts, dragged me around by my hair, and tried to strangle and suffocate us, in the name of "discipline." She has tried to suffocate me to death before, stating at the time that she planned on killing me. She once snapped my brother's toe with her bare hands because he "gave her a smartass look." She once punched my dad in the face so hard that his tooth went through his bottom lip and he required stitches. She once kicked me in the back of the head when I was sitting on the stairs, and then denied that it happened three minutes later. These are just some examples of stuff she's done over the years. Not to mention daily constant screaming and complaining over every little thing, statements that we ruined her life just by existing, gaslighting, manipulation, and a complete refusal to admit wrongdoing, even stating that many instances of abuse never happened. She has been investigated by Child Protective Services on three separate occasions and arrested for domestic violence once; the only reason she got away mostly scot-free is because she manipulated us into lying for her. She has alienated almost everyone from her life (my brother doesn't talk to her either anymore, and he's the exact opposite of the SJW liberal stereotype I know you guys think comprises RBN). So yes, the consensus is, she's an abuser. Since my mother has never been close to my uncle, he was largely unaware of any of this stuff until I told him in August 2015.
In any case, it all worked out. My uncle came to my wedding. And he mentioned at the wedding that the estate wasn't settled yet, so I assume that's why he was talking to her. Either way I'm not losing sleep over it. He has his own life to live.
Anyway, that's my side of the story. I feel like you made a bit of a snap judgment here.